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jcatgrl:

mermaidofspace:

karmapoliceofficer:

everyone you’ve ever loved has said some problematic shit: a novel 

you have also said some problematic shit: the sequel

having said problematic shit does not necessarily make you or anyone else a bad person, just be aware of it, don’t say it again, and don’t make fucking excuses for people who continue to say problematic shit: the thrilling conclusion

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"It is common to say that something is good in theory but not in practice. I always want to say, then it is not such a good theory, is it? To be good in theory but not in practice posits a relation between theory and practice that places theory prior to practice, both methodologically and normatively, as if theory is a terrain unto itself. The conventional image of the relation between the two is first theory, then practice. You have an idea, then act on it. In legal academia you theorize, then try to get some practitioner to put it into practice. To be more exact, you read law review articles, then write more law review articles. The closest most legal academics come to practice is teaching—their students, most of whom will practice, being regarded by many as an occupational hazard to their theorizing. The postmodern version of the relation between theory and practice is discourse unto death. Theory begets no practice, only more text. It proceeds as if you can deconstruct power relations by shifting their markers around in your head. Like all formal idealism, this approach to theory tends unselfconsciously to reproduce existing relations of dominance, in part because it is an utterly removed elite activity. On this level, all theory is a form of practice, because it either subverts or shores up existing deployments of power, in their martial metaphor. As an approach to change, it is the same as the conventional approach to the theory/practice relation: head driven, not world driven. Social change is first thought about, then acted out. Books relate to books, heads talk to heads. Bodies do not crunch bodies or people move people. As theory, it is the de-realization of the world."
Catharine A. MacKinnon, Radically Speaking: Feminism Reclaimed (via sociolab)

MacKinnon’s transphobia is unexcusable, but this is a good analysis regardless of the source. 

(Source: rs620, via sociolab)

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wuntenderqueer:

bestpal:

"women who were born women"
you mean absolutely nobody ever?

i, too, remember the day i popped out of the womb already an adult and already having a gender identity

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nickgoeshere:

Here’s an example of sexism in the media. It’s very subtle, but it’s insidious, and it’s everywhere.

Men’s washroom and women’s washroom, each with an ad in the mirror. Both ads are for the same car. However, the text is slightly changed - in the men’s, it tells you that you look a million bucks but would look even better in that car. In the women’s, it gives you concern that you’re having a bad hair day but that’d be okay if you had that car.

The men’s ad assumes you’re confident and powerful and tries to optimize that image. The women’s ad undermines your opinion of yourself and tells you how to fix it.

Seriously. That shit is fucked.

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Naming Black music charts 1942 to 1992 →

christel-thoughts:

This is from 2006 and explores how music marketed to Black people has been named over the years by Billboard. To simplify matters, I’ve included the most pertinent table here:

Figure 4.1 Billboard charts for music of African American Origin 1942 to 2002

  • 1942 Harlem Hit Parade
  • 1945 Race Records
  • 1949 Rhythm and Blues
  • 1963 no separate chart
  • 1965 R&B
  • 1969 Soul
  • 1982 Black
  • 1990 R&B

Again, race has always been a factor in music marketing and charts. This is why Rihanna is called R&B. This is why Adele and Justin Timberlake are called Pop. It’s two-pronged, actually. 

  1. What is the race of the artist? 
  2. If the artist is Black, are they “safe” enough to market to white kids?

It’s very much racial and has very little to do with how the music actually sounds. “Race Music” included literally anything Black people were doing - Gospel, Blues, Jazz, whatever.

This writer included several sources with their work, which is why i’m sharing it. 

Another good source:

George, Nelson (June 26, 1982). "Black Music Charts: What’s in a Name?"Billboard. p. 10.

Other reading for your consideration:

The Death of Rhythm and Blues - Nelson George
Race Music: Black Cultures From Bebop to Hip Hop - Dr. Guthrie P Ramsey, Jr.

The next time someone asks “what does RACE have to do with music?!?!”, the answer is everygotdamnthing in terms of commercialization.

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"The poorest half of the world’s population—that’s 3.5 billion people—control as much wealth as the richest 85 individuals."

The World’s 85 Richest Now Worth as Much as 3.5 Billion Poorest - Businessweek (via theamericanbear)

A very maddening statistic.

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And it’s fantastic news, according to Kevin O’Leary. 

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ZANU PF youth leader ‘arrests’ transgender activist | SW Radio Africa →

transitiontransmission:

Bulawayo-based transgender activist and socialite, Ricky Nathanson, has been charged with criminal nuisance for using a female toilet at a city hotel Thursday.

Nathanson was first ‘arrested’ at the Palace Hotel by ZANU PF youth leader Farai Mteliso who later handed him over to the police,NewsDay reported Monday.

The activist, who runs a modelling agency, spent the night in police cells before appearing in court Saturday, when a magistrate remanded out of custody.

Nathanson’s sexual status was classified as male following a medical examination at a city hospital, according to the NewsDay.

“She is more comfortable with her female sexual identity and that would explain why she would use the women’s toilet,” gay rights campaigner Chesterfield Samba told SW Radio Africa Tuesday.

Samba said rights group Gays and Lesbians Association of Zimbabwe (GALZ) were investigating the incident, which he said could easily have been dealt with at the hotel.

“We are still assessing how the citizen’s arrest was carried out and how Ricky was treated in custody. It would be wrong to treat Ricky as just another male person, because she is not,” Samba said.

Samba criticised the police’s heavy-handedness when dealing with members of the gay community, which he said was instigated by politicians in many cases.

“We are seeing this across Africa where politicians are leading the witch hunt against people who are either lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender,” Samba said.

“More recently there has been an increase in violence against the gay community in Nigeria following the passing into law of that country’s anti-gay law.

“Such laws only serve to discriminate and to fuel prejudice against gay people who are then targeted and attacked over their sexual orientation,” Samba added.

On Friday, gay rights group GALZ petitioned the Nigerian envoy to Zimbabwe over his government’s anti-gay stance.

“For us this is about standing in solidarity with our Nigerian counterparts who are likely to be harassed and to suffer displacement as a result of laws whose only purpose really is to create a climate of hysteria and homophobia,” Samba said.

The Nigerian embassy is yet to respond to the GALZ petition.

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Sex Positivity is Rape Culture in Disguise →

clownyprincess:

This article is not as cut & dried or condemning as the straight-forward title suggests that it might be and is actually a really good dissection of consent issues within a conflicted movement. Note that it references aspects of the sex-positivity movement that may require some familiarity to fully understand the context of this article.

Of course, I am very sex positive (also kink positive) but I am also anti-rape culture, so I found this instructional in terms of how the two can intersect. I also strive to be positive to asexuality too and feel issues surrounding this identity need to be more broadly understood.

I really recommend this article! I’m pasting the whole article below the link for ease of reading.

eateroftrees:

[Trigger Warning: Rape, Rape Culture discussed at link]

Or, in which I attempt to alienate all my followers.

Mostly it discusses ways in which rape culture and sex positivity intersect, especially for people who are less sexual then is normative, such as asexual people, gray-asexual people, people with sex related triggers, people with autism who get completely overwhelmed by sex, etc.

“Sex Positive Activists who Promote Rape Culture aren’t TRUE Scotsmen

Something I’ve seen going around for a while is this idea that there is such a thing as “Fake sex positivity” which, well, generally is sex positivity that rather blatantly is rape culture, such as, for example, sex positivity that tells asexual people they’re defective and that people are obligated to give sex to their partners.

This is pretty obviously fucked up, but… it’s not fake.  It’s real sex positivity.  It logically follows from the idea that sex is a good thing that you’d want to encourage people to have more sex, and from there its only a short hop to telling people they must consent to sex they don’t want.

Most notably, fucked up conceptions of sex and consent are entirely not contradictory to the idea that sex is good, and further, attempting to say, “No, look, you’re doing it wrong, your sex positivity is fake because it’s rape culture” is actually overlooking a very obvious problem.  Which is that most of sex positivity is rape culture. [Insert repeat of the title here] It’s not to say the idea that people should be allowed to have as much sex as they want or the idea that porn should be easily accessible or the idea that treating sex as shameful is bad are problematic ideas.  All of these are good.  But none of these explicitly require assuming sex is good.  In fact if you start assuming sex is good or that everyone wants access to porn you’ll very quickly run into serious problems. I’ve encountered, among other things, people constantly assuming sex is good and that having sex is just something you do in healthy relationships.  It’s like… this creates a situation where, obviously hating sex is a character flaw born of those terrible sex-negative tropes that society presses on you, and obviously only Bad People don’t consent to sex. That’s rape culture.  This is what environments that assume sex is unambiguously a good thing do. And just saying “Oh okay let’s clarify that it’s consensual sex that’s good” doesn’t actually fix the problem.  It just creates a situation where obviously you must be consenting to sex, because if you aren’t you’re not having enough sex and then you’re sex-negative or whatever. See, it only fixes a problem where you’re like “Well I don’t really want to do this right now”.  It does not do anything at all to help people who find sex painful.  It does nothing at all to help a person who doesn’t want sex but thinks they do because it’s been so heavily normativized that obviously the just have to have sex, and have to have it in this specific way, so all the “But make sure it’s consensual!” thing does is tells the person “Well maybe if you don’t want sex this time it’s okay, but remember you still must be having it some of the time!” See, to actually fight rape culture you need to say “Sex is always optional.  You are never obligated to have sex.”  You must always be concerned with consent, and that means you must accept that the answer may very wellalways be no. And if someone never wants sex, then to them, sex can’t really be a good thing, because it’s always unwanted. It’s also worth noting, that while subjectively sex can be good at times, even assuming that sex (or at least, sex that you consent to) is universally good from your perspective can become problematic, because actually it turns out sex isn’t always a single person thing, and if you’re not considering that fact you can quickly end up in a situation where your partners feel pressured to be sexual, or where potential partners feel pressured to be sexual, which can quickly become a problem.  Sex is only good if all the parties involved think it’s good.  Don’t decide that for people without their consent. Showing People Porn Without Their Consent is Sexual Harassment Frequently also people doing sex positive activism will do a very bad job checking for consent.  See, creating blogs of porn is completely okay, but what people will then start doing is things like… posting porn on a blog that is usually not porn, or mixing porn in with material that is not porn, and on the most dramatic example of this I’ve seen, the person posted a large amount of porn–which did trigger me, as porn often does–and then posted shaming posts that implied only narrow minded people would unfollow them for it. This person posted triggering material and then attacked their followers for taking the actions that would be necessary to keep themselves safe.  And trust me, porn is not uncommon as a trigger.  Nor is porn necessarily something everyone wants to see all the time.  And when you post sexual material without an adequate way to opt out, you are forcing a person into sexual situations without their consent. And people are not okay with porn for reasons other then sex-negativity.  I’m not okay with porn because there’s a high chance of it either triggering my gender dysphoria, which is painful as fuck, or my OCD texture phobias, which, again, is extremely painful.  (And while I’m not generally triggered by it, because of the nature of BDSM, that is especially frequently triggery to people.  And yep, I’ve seen sex-positive blogs that regularly include kink without any sort of warning.) And when you mix porn in with a regular blog, you’re saying “Well reading anything I write requires you also being okay with porn”, or “No asexual people or people who’re otherwise triggered by porn allowed here.”  And that’s really fucking gross and exclusionary. The same also applies with graphic discussions of sex, but I’ve found people are a bit better about that, and a giant wall of text takes a lot more effort to process, and so is easier to avoid, then pictures of people having sex. Enthusiastic Consent means Asexual People Can’t Consent And a further popular trope relating to sex that is actually rape-culture in disguise, is the idea that enthusiasm is the benchmark for okay consent.  For one, it doesn’t actually do anything to deter coercion; it just means if a rapist wants to pressure someone into consenting, they’ll additionally insist that the person is more enthusiastic.  It’s not like enthusiasm can’t be faked pretty easily. But more notably, it ties into this whole thing about sexual normativity and the idea that sex is unambiguously good.  See, for many people sex is notunambiguously good.  Especially if a person has a history of sex related triggers, or an extensive amount of internalizing sex-negative values, or is neurodivergent and tends to be overwhelmed by anything sexual.  And see, requiring that consent be enthusiastic is saying “You need to ignore everything negative about your possible experiences with sex in order for your consent to be valid.” It’s saying “You must suppress all your negative emotions.  If you show them or act on them you can’t have sex.  Even if you really really want it.”  And yes, I frequently have been in a situation where I wanted sex, but because of my self-awareness I was quite clear that there was a lot of potential for shit to go wrong, and so I wasn’t particularly enthusiasticabout it. And ignoring all these possible negative outcomes? That’s just a way to ensure that you’ll step into a space you’re uncomfortable with and suppress all your negative emotions because obviously you can’t show and of your anxiety because if you did then your consent wouldn’t count and obviously you want your sexual autonomy respected… but then you’ve gone too far and you’re still suppressing all your negative emotions even though you’re having a panic attack. Well We Already Knew None of You Gave a Fuck About People With Phobias And understand how internalized sex negativity is different from sex negativity.  The latter is saying “People shouldn’t have sex because it’s dirty, etc”, the former is having heard that a hundred times, and possibly at some point believed it, and so now you can’t help but feel gross and unclean every time you orgasm because you have that association so heavily beaten into your head.  That? Doesn’t oppress people beyond the person who’s done the internalization, and failing to make this distinction is just further marginalizing and hurting a person who’s already been on the bad end of mistreatment by society.  Of course, the fact that there are sex-positive activists who’ve decided to use “erotophobia”, which is, you know, a clinical phobia, for sex negativity tells you about how much sex-positive activists care about such people on average. Reconceptualize your sexuality activism to be about promoting self-determination.  Your goal is not to stop the shame around sex at any cost, your goal is to ensure that the people who don’t have shame, or want to reduce their shame, can get rid of it and have access to resources.  Don’t hurt people who don’t want sex in the process. Because if you do, you’re creating a society where raping people who aren’t normatively sexual is sometimes okay.  And that’s not cool.”

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iridessence:

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boyprincessmanic:

TW: EXTREME RACISM AND SLURS

Alright you guys listen up. This is really REALLY important so just do me a solid here and take a minute to read this okay.

A few years ago, a good friend of mine named Whitney Mitchell became extremely sick and had to have both arms and legs amputated. She was given a 12% chance to live but she fought through it and she’s one of the bravest and most beautiful people I’ve ever met in my life.

Today, her mother sent me a message on Facebook saying that Whitney had been targeted by a website called Chimp Mania. I’d never heard of it, so I did some research, and at just a glance I was immediately disgusted. Just the RULES for the website are awful beyond words.

The forum thread for Whitney is mocking enough, calling her a “shefreak” and saying she “plans to knuckle drag again.” The comments say some pretty stomach-churning things, but I decided to leave a lot of them out. A lot of them were photoshopped pictures of Whitney from when she was in physical rehab, replacing her legs with things like fried chicken legs and a map of Niger. This is the only thread I even bothered looking at and I could barely stomach it.

There is a petition to get this website permanently deleted. I don’t know how much good it will do but it NEEDS signatures. It’s got barely any right now and I don’t want this blatant vomiting on human beings to continue.

Here’s a link to the petition: http://chn.ge/1dectHH

This bullshit has gone on long enough. The fact that it exists in the first place makes me sick to my stomach. Please take a moment to sign this petition.

NOT

ENOUGH 

NOTES

WHY ISN’T THIS AT OVER A MILLION NOTES??!

This website has been up and running for a long time. Much like stormfront it is a hate website, but this website targets individuals, and crosses any line of what should be considered “free speech” and is obviously hate speech. Please. This is too much. This person has gone through so much already. 

This is why when people complain on this site about black even TALKING about racism, and when they complain about white girl Starbucks jokes, I seethe.

This is what WE have to deal with, people creating entire websites dedicated to calling us animals. This is why I laugh at those Starbucks jokes, and literally give negative shits about people who say “well no one should make jokes about ANYONE” because clearly y’all never seem to find the people that run sites like the one mentioned above to call them out, otherwise they wouldn’t exist.

Do you know how this feels? Do you know how this fucking feels? Being viewed as subhuman? That sites like this exist? That they target disabled women of color for no other purpose than having the audacity to be born black in this world AND suffer from terminal illness?

I really don’t know what else to say. I feel sick to my stomach. I feel this shit in my bones.

Every single one of you that can had better sign this fucking petition, or unfollow me.

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spankmeagainplease:

Feel free to sexually harass me if you’re male. You know what they say “Boys will be boys.”. Although I’m not sure any of you will want to do that since I’m not very modest, therefore not attractive.--------The new principal at my school used two phrases while addressing new dress code rules to a class."Modest is hottest." and "Boys will be boys."He should have said something more along the lines of: “The school dress code was established to provide our students with a safe and orderly learning environment that is free from distractions.”Let’s start with the phrase “Modest is hottest.” Shall we?Modest-Having or showing a moderate estimation of one’s own talents, abilities, and value.If modest is hottest, then it’s not modest.You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies. A human has the right to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Showing less skin doesn’t make you any more attractive. Showing more skin does not make you any less attractive. When someone calls you attractive that just means that they are attracted to you.At what point in your career did you find it appropriate to define my “hotness”? Why are you at all concerned with how “hot” I am? You are teaching us, through modesty, to be objects of sexual arousal. I’m sorry, but I don’t dress myself to look “hot” for anyone. I dress myself as a way of expressing myself and my body. “If covering up my body is supposed to make people sexually/physically attracted to me, then how would those people feel if I decide to have sexual relations with them, without clothes on?” “How am I supposed to love and feel proud of my naked body and develop a sense of sexuality when exposing my body is deemed shameful and unattractive?” Since when should being “hot” be my concern. I don’t want to be with someone who just thinks I’m hot. I want to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of my mind, personality, and body. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “How to be hot.”.My body is not a sinful temptation that needs to be hidden. My body is not your personal, sexual object. My body does not overshadow my character. My body is not any more sexual than a man’s body. My body is not here to look “hot” for you.Next up is “Boys will be boys.”Being a boy refers to your gender. That’s all.It does not make you constantly sexually aroused, animalistic, or sexually uncontrollable, but for some reason society has come to the conclusion that you are this stereotype. This is extremely sad. This gender stereotype is unfair to all men. By telling them who they are as a man you are absolutely taking away their moral agency. “But he’s a teenager. He’s raging with hormones.” You don’t think I’m raging with hormones as well? Believe me I am. Men are not stupid. They are not unable to see when someone is not consenting to sex. It’s not ‘in their nature’ to rape because they are a man, it’s not ‘in their nature’ because IT’S WRONG TO RAPE SOMEONE. Raping someone is a cognitive choice. (how modestly the victim dresses does not affect them being raped). When the few people that do sexually harass people happen to be male and you use the excuse “Boys will be boys.” you are not only excusing their behavior, you are condoning it. It’s this “Boys will be boys.” mentality, culture, and attitude that condone sexual assault. Whenever the excuse “Boys will be boys.” is used, it’s just an exercise of male privilege. It’s this attitude that condones sexual assault. You are giving them a free license that makes it okay for them to be sexually violent, that says “Well I’m a boy, it’s just who I am.” Sex needs to stop being about “no no no bad dirty gross shameful” and start being about “Yes. Let’s have consenting sex because I want to.” Consent. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “Well you know how they are… Boys will be boys!” Boys are not sexually uncontrollable.Boys do not have a genetic, animalistic, violent nature.Boys are not born with a natural desire for destruction or control.Despite what society and culture keeps trying to cram down everyone’s throat, having a penis doesn’t make it okay to sexually harass someone. The false idea that men can’t control themselves is so unfair and completely ridiculous.


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The next day He called me down to his office to discuss my concerns. (Students and teachers told him about it, which I expected)




I spent a good hour and a half arguing with the principle about his comments when he called me down to his office, today. I offered to send him what I posted if he was interested in reading it. He said “No, that won’t be necessary.” I explained to him that I wanted him to read what I wrote and I would appreciate it if he did. He said “No, I don’t really care to read it. That’s okay.”I asked him what he meant by the phrase “boys will be boys” and he explained that if a girl is inappropriately dressed that it can lead to inappropriate, sexual touching and staring (sexual harassment). If a boy chooses to sexually harass someone, it’s his choice no matter what his gender is.He explained to me that boys are more “wound up” than girls are. I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that so I asked him for a different adjective and after a minute of mumbling he chose the word “aggressive” but then followed that up with “…well I don’t think that’s the correct word to use…”. I agree, not the best word to use, eh? I asked him to explain why boys are different than girls in this regard and he said “Well to start, all boys are attracted to girls…” I interrupted with “No. There are actually boys who are attracted to other boys.” He laughed and said “Oh, yes of course!”… I guess that part must have slipped his mind.I asked him, in general, what the difference is between girls and boys. He said that boys “misbehave more” and are “outgoing”. He said that girls are “reserved”. That’s all. That’s the word he used, “reserved”. Boys and girls are different because they have different organs and hormones. Being a girl doesn’t automatically make me reserved. Just like being a boy doesn’t make you automatically misbehave. I explained to him that by using the phrase “Boys will be boys.”, he is excusing and condoning bad behavior from boys, such as sexual harassment and rape. “But that’s not reality, that’s your opinion.” he said. He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” I told him that the phrases he used were sexist and stereotypical and unfair to all genders. I explained to him that many students and people of society were offended by what he said and the phrases he used. I told him that I thought he should apologize for what he said and explain to students and society that this kind of message is not okay or appropriate.He said he wouldn’t apologize for that, but he would give me an apology, which was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” After he dodged almost every question I asked by sharing his plans to improve LHS, he decided that he had had enough of not being able to answer my questions or concerns and ended our discussion by saying “I’m going to end this discussion.” and I was sent back to class.






Yes. This needs to go viral.

Marion, I love you so much for this. You are the catalyst for change in this world. No matter how small the impact<3 I feel honored to know you.

We passed 1000 notes! Yes! I’m so proud of my Marion!

There is so much wrong with what this principal is doing that I can’t even list it, but yeah here’s your takeaway:
He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” 
They are disrespectful because you have specifically told them they can do whatever they want and you will excuse it because they’re boys!

This definitely needs to go viral, but with the name of the principal and the school.

Lakeland Senior High School and his name is Mr. Martinez

shiiiit dude

Is it this school?
http://www.polk-fl.net/schools/geninfo.asp?id=8
OP, you are a badass.

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Feel free to sexually harass me if you’re male. You know what they say “Boys will be boys.”. Although I’m not sure any of you will want to do that since I’m not very modest, therefore not attractive.
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The new principal at my school used two phrases while addressing new dress code rules to a class.

"Modest is hottest." and "Boys will be boys."

He should have said something more along the lines of: “The school dress code was established to provide our students with a safe and orderly learning environment that is free from distractions.”

Let’s start with the phrase “Modest is hottest.” Shall we?

Modest-Having or showing a moderate estimation of one’s own talents, abilities, and value.

If modest is hottest, then it’s not modest.

You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies. A human has the right to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Showing less skin doesn’t make you any more attractive. Showing more skin does not make you any less attractive. When someone calls you attractive that just means that they are attracted to you.

At what point in your career did you find it appropriate to define my “hotness”? Why are you at all concerned with how “hot” I am? You are teaching us, through modesty, to be objects of sexual arousal. I’m sorry, but I don’t dress myself to look “hot” for anyone. I dress myself as a way of expressing myself and my body. “If covering up my body is supposed to make people sexually/physically attracted to me, then how would those people feel if I decide to have sexual relations with them, without clothes on?” “How am I supposed to love and feel proud of my naked body and develop a sense of sexuality when exposing my body is deemed shameful and unattractive?” Since when should being “hot” be my concern. I don’t want to be with someone who just thinks I’m hot. I want to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of my mind, personality, and body. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “How to be hot.”.

My body is not a sinful temptation that needs to be hidden. 
My body is not your personal, sexual object. 
My body does not overshadow my character. 
My body is not any more sexual than a man’s body. 
My body is not here to look “hot” for you.

Next up is “Boys will be boys.”

Being a boy refers to your gender. That’s all.

It does not make you constantly sexually aroused, animalistic, or sexually uncontrollable, but for some reason society has come to the conclusion that you are this stereotype. This is extremely sad. This gender stereotype is unfair to all men. By telling them who they are as a man you are absolutely taking away their moral agency. “But he’s a teenager. He’s raging with hormones.” You don’t think I’m raging with hormones as well? Believe me I am. Men are not stupid. They are not unable to see when someone is not consenting to sex. It’s not ‘in their nature’ to rape because they are a man, it’s not ‘in their nature’ because IT’S WRONG TO RAPE SOMEONE. Raping someone is a cognitive choice. (how modestly the victim dresses does not affect them being raped). When the few people that do sexually harass people happen to be male and you use the excuse “Boys will be boys.” you are not only excusing their behavior, you are condoning it. It’s this “Boys will be boys.” mentality, culture, and attitude that condone sexual assault. Whenever the excuse “Boys will be boys.” is used, it’s just an exercise of male privilege. It’s this attitude that condones sexual assault. You are giving them a free license that makes it okay for them to be sexually violent, that says “Well I’m a boy, it’s just who I am.” Sex needs to stop being about “no no no bad dirty gross shameful” and start being about “Yes. Let’s have consenting sex because I want to.” Consent. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “Well you know how they are… Boys will be boys!” 

Boys are not sexually uncontrollable.
Boys do not have a genetic, animalistic, violent nature.
Boys are not born with a natural desire for destruction or control.

Despite what society and culture keeps trying to cram down everyone’s throat, having a penis doesn’t make it okay to sexually harass someone. The false idea that men can’t control themselves is so unfair and completely ridiculous.
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The next day He called me down to his office to discuss my concerns. (Students and teachers told him about it, which I expected)
I spent a good hour and a half arguing with the principle about his comments when he called me down to his office, today. I offered to send him what I posted if he was interested in reading it. He said “No, that won’t be necessary.” I explained to him that I wanted him to read what I wrote and I would appreciate it if he did. He said “No, I don’t really care to read it. That’s okay.”

I asked him what he meant by the phrase “boys will be boys” and he explained that if a girl is inappropriately dressed that it can lead to inappropriate, sexual touching and staring (sexual harassment). If a boy chooses to sexually harass someone, it’s his choice no matter what his gender is.
He explained to me that boys are more “wound up” than girls are. I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that so I asked him for a different adjective and after a minute of mumbling he chose the word “aggressive” but then followed that up with “…well I don’t think that’s the correct word to use…”. I agree, not the best word to use, eh? 

I asked him to explain why boys are different than girls in this regard and he said “Well to start, all boys are attracted to girls…” I interrupted with “No. There are actually boys who are attracted to other boys.” He laughed and said “Oh, yes of course!”… I guess that part must have slipped his mind.

I asked him, in general, what the difference is between girls and boys. He said that boys “misbehave more” and are “outgoing”. He said that girls are “reserved”. That’s all. That’s the word he used, “reserved”. Boys and girls are different because they have different organs and hormones. Being a girl doesn’t automatically make me reserved. Just like being a boy doesn’t make you automatically misbehave. I explained to him that by using the phrase “Boys will be boys.”, he is excusing and condoning bad behavior from boys, such as sexual harassment and rape. “But that’s not reality, that’s your opinion.” he said. 

He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” 

I told him that the phrases he used were sexist and stereotypical and unfair to all genders. I explained to him that many students and people of society were offended by what he said and the phrases he used. I told him that I thought he should apologize for what he said and explain to students and society that this kind of message is not okay or appropriate.

He said he wouldn’t apologize for that, but he would give me an apology, which was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” 

After he dodged almost every question I asked by sharing his plans to improve LHS, he decided that he had had enough of not being able to answer my questions or concerns and ended our discussion by saying “I’m going to end this discussion.” and I was sent back to class.

Yes. This needs to go viral.

Marion, I love you so much for this. You are the catalyst for change in this world. No matter how small the impact<3 I feel honored to know you.

We passed 1000 notes! Yes! I’m so proud of my Marion!

There is so much wrong with what this principal is doing that I can’t even list it, but yeah here’s your takeaway:

He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.”

They are disrespectful because you have specifically told them they can do whatever they want and you will excuse it because they’re boys!

This definitely needs to go viral, but with the name of the principal and the school.

Lakeland Senior High School and his name is Mr. Martinez

shiiiit dude

Is it this school?

http://www.polk-fl.net/schools/geninfo.asp?id=8

OP, you are a badass.







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— 6 months ago with 149958 notes
thewalrusmagazine:

Illustration by Jeffrey Smith (jeffreysmithillustrator.com).
Read “Born in the Burbs” (October 2013) by Ron Graham at thewalrus.ca.

thewalrusmagazine:

Illustration by Jeffrey Smith (jeffreysmithillustrator.com).

Read “Born in the Burbs” (October 2013) by Ron Graham at thewalrus.ca.

— 6 months ago with 6 notes
"The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything."
Scott Wood (X)

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republicandoorknob:

liberalsarecool:

Republicans live in a socialized economy then pretend they are fighting socialism from happening. You need a civics class.
The GOP live in a pretend world. Look how their politicians live off the public, get pensions paid by the public, then pretend they are not the direct  beneficiary of the socialism they are fighting. Talk about denial.

Elected four times.

republicandoorknob:

liberalsarecool:

Republicans live in a socialized economy then pretend they are fighting socialism from happening. You need a civics class.

The GOP live in a pretend world. Look how their politicians live off the public, get pensions paid by the public, then pretend they are not the direct  beneficiary of the socialism they are fighting. Talk about denial.

Elected four times.

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friendlycloud:

zingey:

d1am0ndt1ara:

imhyperdearie:

He is aware he just confirmed that he believes in forcing women to bear children against their will, right?

Correct. They’re not even bothering to hide behind the fetal rights agenda anymore.

Everyone should see this kind of thing.

Apart from the misogynist part, why do these rich guys want people to have children so much?

friendlycloud:

zingey:

d1am0ndt1ara:

imhyperdearie:

He is aware he just confirmed that he believes in forcing women to bear children against their will, right?

Correct. They’re not even bothering to hide behind the fetal rights agenda anymore.

Everyone should see this kind of thing.

Apart from the misogynist part, why do these rich guys want people to have children so much?

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— 6 months ago with 21115 notes

rad-and-broke:

MRAs, which are usually white middle class men, love to complain about false rape accusations. They fail to realize that of the ~0.2% of rape cases where an innocent man was charged, practically all of them were black. In fact, they refuse to see a correlation between these two things, and get angry when you point it out.

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